Having rituals is powerful. It gives us a schedule of things to look forward to and celebrate. It’s a reason to get together with others. Rituals happen routinely and take discipline but bring a joyous outcome in sense of anticipation and belonging in community. There’s power in looking ahead!
Having rituals is powerful. It gives us a schedule of things to look forward to and celebrate. It’s a reason to get together with others. Rituals happen routinely and take discipline but bring a joyous outcome in sense of anticipation and belonging in community. There’s power in looking ahead!
We have two main kinds of rituals – big and small. Big R rituals are ones that occur on a regular basis and are celebrated on a society basis. These include birthdays, holidays, and big community events. Smaller r rituals are just as important, providing a purpose in our relationships. These include rituals you and your partner would establish separately and together. Meals, mediation, reading, morning coffee dates… all of this. An example of an individual ritual? Brushing my teeth! These are all just as important and bring stability in our daily lives.
“I feel the most stable when I know there are networks of people to support me, and I get together to celebrate the rituals!”
The pandemic has rattled everyone’s big and small rituals. This has shown the importance of establishing home rituals first. The key is finding the ones that work for you. Rituals are a conscious, intentional choice. It requires the willingness to adjust as necessary, baby steps. If it doesn’t work, no problem! Reevaluate and find something new.
When you find a ritual that works – celebrate! Even if it's just a simple acknowledgement. We did it!
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