The inner dreaded drama triangle is a powerful model to understand our relationship when in conflict. The core of this triangle is an attempt to gain some power – its easy to blame someone else! Dan & Carol talk about how to we can avoid this trap and let life flow smoother.
The inner dreaded drama triangle is a powerful model to understand our relationship when in conflict. The core of this triangle is an attempt to gain some power – it's easy to blame someone else! Dan & Carol talk about how we can avoid this trap and let life flow smoother.
The three points in this triangle are - persecutor, rescuer, and the victim. No matter which behavior you may be playing out, you start to feel like the victim. “Poor me, I’ve lost control and can’t do anything about it”. That quickly turns into victimhood, you now own it.
The core of this is to gain control and feel some power. That’s what blame does too! If you can blame someone else, you get the feeling of more power in the moment. However, if one of you is calmer or patient in the situation, you can guide the other partner out of the dreaded triangle and support them out of it.
“When I focus on what’s important now and breathe deeply, I can reduce the amount of time I spend in that dreaded drama triangle.”
The more I practice consciously escaping the triangle, the more you can learn about it! Just imagine what our lives, relationships and world can be like when more people are consciously aware of their feelings when they treat themselves and each other from a place of love, kindness, and respect. We can get there together.
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